Trayvon Martin's Parents Turn Pain into Power
Guest Columnist | , Marian Wright Edelman | 10/31/2012, 3:03 p.m.
When Sybrina Fulton, Trayvon Martin's mother, spoke at the Children's Defense Fund's recent national conference, she shared some details about her son that reminded the audience both how special Trayvon was to his family and at the same time how much the happy, social high school student was like any mother's child.
"He was very affectionate. He loved to hug and kiss us at 17," she recalled. "He was still a loving teenager . . . He liked to go to the movies. He liked to go to the mall. He liked to dress nice. He had to smell good. He used to talk on the phone all the time with the girls . . . He was just a loving guy. He loved sports. He loved the outdoors. If he was in this room right now, he would be walking around talking to a lot of you right now."
Trayvon's February fatal shooting after he was targeted by neighborhood watchman George Zimmerman for looking "no good" while walking home carrying a bag of Skittles and a can of iced tea angered and saddened millions of people. For Sybrina and Tracy Martin, Trayvon's father, the personal devastation at losing their 17-year-old son that way was unimaginable. But his mother emphasized their family's determination to do something positive with their loss.
"We have decided to turn the hurt and the pain into power," she said. "Trust me. It hurts. It hurts. But what we need to do is we need to get the message out to you, and that's why it's important for us to speak out. And that's why it's important for us to talk to you now, so that there is not another statistic like Trayvon Martin."
Trayvon's parents and Benjamin Crump, the family's attorney, spoke at CDF's National and Racial Healing Town Hall. They joined other parents who also have lost children to violence and decided to turn their pain into positive action. The Martins and Attorney Crump spoke about their commitment to justice for Trayvon in order to make sure his death was not in vain--and why justice for Trayvon matters not just for the Martins' child, but for all of our children.
Trayvon's father shared a story about how Trayvon had helped save his life during a fire in the family's kitchen when he was just 8 years old. Of course, there was nothing Tracy Martin could do in return the night his son was chased down by Zimmerman out on patrol with his gun. As he told the story he was overwhelmed with grief, but he was also determined to keep striving towards something positive, no matter how difficult it seemed.
"We never envision as parents burying your children," he said. "But in doing so and seeing how communities have come together and stand united in the fight for justice with us, it teaches us a very strong lesson. And I think that lesson is stand up for what you believe in, and when you stand up for what you believe in, others will stand with you."