THE RELIGION CORNER: Twelve Things That Make Men Rich (Part 5)
Lyndia Grant | 4/16/2014, 3 p.m.
God didn't give us a spirit of fear but of sound mind — 2 Timothy 1:7
There is no fear in love. But perfect love casteth out fear because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. — 1 John 4:18
The purpose of this series is to share what Napoleon Hill discovered and shared with millions in his book "Think and Grow Rich," written agreement with scripture. He lists 12 Things That Make Men Rich; with money in last place.
Last week, we shared how sound physical health is a necessity. Let us examine the fourth item Hill discovered; “Freedom from Fear.” Fear is a stumbling block for millions because with it, you won’t accomplish anything.
Thirty years ago, I found it extremely difficult to speak before audiences. Fear would cause me to nearly lose my breath; but as years passed, fear became love! Today, I seek opportunities to stand before audiences to deliver messages of hope; teaching others how to set and reach those goals that the Heavenly Father sent them to achieve.
Doing something about your fear is the only way to make it go away. I found this quote by John Lennon that says it best:
“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”
Love is unconditional; fear is conditional; which means we are only afraid under certain circumstances; and it could be times that hinder desired progress. No one is afraid every minute of their lives unless they are suffering from a mental illness.
Love is strong, fear is weak: It takes a strong person to forgive someone who hurt us in a justifiably uncompassionate manner, yet the one who shows love is the strong one. A weak person will not forgive, they fear someone may hurt them again in the future, so the fear takes control of the situation rather than love.
Love releases, fear obligates: To the same person that hurt you in such a devastating manner, you have now forgiven them and you are free to go on with your life.
However, if you chose to continue to hold these grudges against the one who hurt you; you obligate yourself to remember the pain every time they come around. You remain obligated to feel this fear.
Love surrenders, fear binds: To surrender simply means by dictionary definition that you throw in the towel and you agree to stop fighting, hiding and resisting because you know that you will not win or succeed.
Love is honest, fear is fully of trickery, and will deceive you. Love trusts never doubting what someone says, however, fear is always suspicious.
Love allows individuals to be who they really are, yet fear would rather dictate. They want everything their way. Love is forgiving, where someone with fear would rather blame someone else, rather than take responsibility and forgive themselves or they will forgive the others around them for what they’ve done.
Love is compassionate. Compassion is the emotion we feel in response to the suffering of others that motivates a desire to help; for example to assist a family who lost their home. Fear will cause you to feel sorry for them, yet do nothing.
Lyndia Grant is an author, inspirational and motivational speaker, radio talk show host and columnist; visit her new website at www.lyndiagrant.com and, call 202-518-3192. Tune in Fridays at 6 p.m., to the radio talk show, 1340 AM, WYCB, a Radio One Station.